Happy 60th Wedding Anniversary!
Happy 60th Wedding Anniversary Dad and Mom! I can't imagine the commitment it must have taken to stay married, through thick and through thin, for sixty years. I remember asking dad one time whether he had any regrets in life. If he could get something different for his life, what would it be? He calmly replied, "The only thing I ever wanted, was your mother."
Loving someone really does require you to commit to falling in love over and over with the same person. Because falling in love is relatively easy, since it's based on feelings of giddy excitement and discovery. But remaining in love, once the freshness has worn off and the cute habits have become annoying, requires remembering why you fell in love in the first place. This advice was essentially what my dad shared with me one time after I'd been married five years.
I shared my dad's advice to me with a woman I met in a medical office. She noted that she and her husband were separated. I told her what my dad had told me, "Go back to the time when you fell in love for the first time and figure out what it was that you loved about him then. Remember you won't both be giving the same all the time. One time you'll feel like you're giving 110% and he's only giving 10%, but other times he'll be giving 110% and you'll only be giving 10%. It's give and take. And you better hope that you don't both fall out of love at the same time, because you will fall out of love, but if one of you is still in love, then they can pull the other back into love again." The woman said to me, "My husband's picking me up today. I'm going to tell him what your father said."
Loving someone really does require you to commit to falling in love over and over with the same person. Because falling in love is relatively easy, since it's based on feelings of giddy excitement and discovery. But remaining in love, once the freshness has worn off and the cute habits have become annoying, requires remembering why you fell in love in the first place. This advice was essentially what my dad shared with me one time after I'd been married five years.
I shared my dad's advice to me with a woman I met in a medical office. She noted that she and her husband were separated. I told her what my dad had told me, "Go back to the time when you fell in love for the first time and figure out what it was that you loved about him then. Remember you won't both be giving the same all the time. One time you'll feel like you're giving 110% and he's only giving 10%, but other times he'll be giving 110% and you'll only be giving 10%. It's give and take. And you better hope that you don't both fall out of love at the same time, because you will fall out of love, but if one of you is still in love, then they can pull the other back into love again." The woman said to me, "My husband's picking me up today. I'm going to tell him what your father said."
Thanks dad and mom for being the model of commitment that so many of us are looking for today!
1 Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Great advice from your dad! They are a living example and have a wonderful daughter that's following g her dads advice....
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